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April 3rd, 2010 | 
Author: If you know someone that is dealing with a lot of stress, you may want to help him or her deal with it. You can do some things in order to get them through their difficult periods and continue to see them through the entire dilemma that stress can bring to someone’s life. It is important for you to be a good method of support for them and to let them know that you are always going to be there for them.
If you are trying to help someone with stress, you need to be a good support for him or her. Call them as often as you can. Ask how they are doing and if they need anything. Be there for the person when they want to talk and open up about things. This can be one of the best ways to help someone that is dealing with stress and needs to find help.
If a person is alone, you can call them up and ask to dinner. Invite them over to the house to watch a movie or play board games. Do anything that you can in order to involve them in some form of physical activity. If they are depressed from stress, being alone may only add to their problems and may even create more in the end.
Being a true friend means being there to lend a hand and help when necessary. When a person is suffering from stress, they may not ask for help that they want. It is important that you are looking for the signs and know when you need to intervene with some help. You can make a difference to them just by being their friend. This is the most that you can do for them to help them in a bad situation.
Watch for the warning signs of stress and the depression that it can cause. Look for signs of distress like not eating, staying at home all the time, pushing away friends and loved ones, not going to work and if their appearance suddenly changes. These are all signs that there may be a problem in their life and they may need to have a little extra attention from their friends and other method of support.
Just be a friend and help them get through the tough times. Offer you hand and tell them that it will be all right. This is the most effective way that you can help someone when they are dealing with stress.
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Here are some general ways to know you might have crossed the line from healthy sexual interest to sexual addiction or compulsion:
1. You lie
For Parker, the sex addiction counselor, this is the No. 1 way you know you’ve crossed the line: when you make up stories to get sex.
“If you lie with women to get them to have sex with you, you’re a predator and an addict,” he says.
2. Sex consumes you
If your interest in sex runs your life, you have a problem, says Robert Weiss, a social worker and founder of the Sexual Recovery Institute. He says addicts “are always preoccupied with hitting on someone, or picking someone up, or getting home to look at porn before their spouse comes home.”
3. You’re “divorced, dead, fired or arrested”
If you continue your sexual activities even under threat of being “divorced, dead, fired or arrested,” you’re an addict, Parker says.
“They ignore the consequences,” Weiss adds. “They say, ‘I could really screw up myself here, but I’m going to continue to do it.’ ”
4. You have an intense interest in pornography
“The pornography piece of this cannot be overstated,” Parker says. “Show me a guy who’s having sex with three women in one week, and I promise you he has a relationship with pornography.”
5. You want to stop and you can’t
Sexual addiction is defined by a loss of control, Weiss says.